I Hold a Fire Within Myself





Today, on Martin Luther King Jr. Day, a longtime supporter of Hostage Calm and marriage equality was fired from his job at the Nashville music venue, Rocketown, for wearing his “I Support Same-Sex Marriage” shirt to work. A friend from Nashville contacted me about the situation and told me of Wes…

i’ve had some thoughts about hostage calm’s promotion of same-sex marriage for awhile now. And now with this shirt thing happening it feels like an appropriate time to bring these things up. the fact that this pro-same-sex marriage message is coming from a band of (sorry if i’m assuming things that aren’t accurate) straight cismen (who are obviously trying hard to do something they think is helpful and the effort is appreciated) is kind of…off to me for a couple reasons. The first thing is, I see promoting same-sex marriage as kind of like saying well, if you can get as close to being straight (ie heteronormative) as possible but with a partner of the same sex, then cool, all the rights for you. but if you fall outside these still-narrow lines (such as being transgender), well, you’re just outta luck. Also, marriage equality is so popular because it’s the main issue for mostly-white, mostly-middle/upper class lesbian ciswomen and gay cismen so it’s become the most media-friendly queer issue. but the queer people who face the really shitty issues like higher rates of sexual abuse, homelessness, unemployment, suicide, imprisonment, etc are queers who are also people of color, especially youth, and especially transwomen. so I think it’s important to look at what a pro-same-sex marriage stance really is promoting (whiteness, cissexism, and straightness through heteronormativity). I understand why people are saying that it’s important for hostage calm to reach people who aren’t super aware of these issues, but if it’s done by leaving out people who are consistently left out and saved for later once people are “more understanding,” what’s the fucking point?

hostage calm is (unknowingly?) advocating for a cause that isn’t theirs. this is different than being an ally, which is what they are probably trying to do. instead of having shirts for same-sex marriage, it would be more helpful to be like “hey our friends at black and pink are set up at our merch table and have some great stuff, here is someone from the organization talking about Queer rights real quick.” or any other queer rights organization being involved in any other cool way. 

we need to set the bar higher.

check out:

http://www.blackandpink.org  they’re really awesome!!


seems like a band that wanted to show their support for oppressed folks and take a stand against the current system. I don’t understand why social justice bloggers can’t like, deal with unoppressed people allying themselves with their cause. 

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    i’m with this guy ^
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    not overanalyze every single little...know you probably
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    The road to hell is paved with good intentions.
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    i know this guy from fucking ticket lines i can’t believe he was on the front page of reddit FREAKING ROBERT TOLD ME...
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    not trying to be like snarky or anything, this is an actual question. What does this have to do with the original post?...
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    I’m not comfortable with bashing hostage calm like this for a couple of reasons, but the main one is that one person or...
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    Rocketown used to be a super cool venue. Infact it was the nicest venue in nashville aside for the mainstream shows that...
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    positive, forward thinking dialogue just ain’t what it used to be : /
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    yes, but you’re on the white/male/cis side of my side, and I think somewhere along the line we became a horrible...
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    I don’t neccesarily agree with peoples idea that anyone supporting gay marriage is not supporting any other queer...
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    ^Truth. Dammit Tumblr. I hate it with social justice bloggers act like they are part of an exclusive club of people who...
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    I guess I missed the part where Hostage Calm tried to be anything other than helpful in this arena.
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    Wow. I can’t believe this happened….just when you think we’re moving forward. I’ve only been to Rocketown once and...
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    Not that you aren’t making a point but that still doesn’t really justify a person being fired for supporting same-sex...
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